I’m seated on a wooden bench under a makuti shed located at a vantage point deep in the heart of a national reserve watching a herd of elephants grazing peaceful below, oblivious of the chaotic world out there. A fortnight ago I handed in my final year project which marked the end of a 5-year pursuit for my Undergrads. Faced with the biggest dilemma of my life, I traveled down to this remote camping site in south coast to strategize on my next step. The decision I’m about to make is to either take the job offered or turn it down and instead follow my passion which is unconventional.
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BY BOB PROCTOR
There is a single mental move you can make which, in a millisecond, will solve enormous problems for you. It has the potential to improve almost any personal or business situation you will ever encounter … and it could literally propel you down the path to incredible success. We have a name for this magic mental activity … it is called DECISION.
Decisions, or the lack of them, are responsible for the breaking or making of many a career. Individuals who have become very proficient at making decisions, without being influenced by the opinions of others, are the same people whose annual incomes fall into the six and seven figure category. However, it’s not just your income that is affected by decisions; your whole life is dominated by this power. The health of your mind and body, the well being of your family, your social life, the type of relationships you develop … all are dependent upon your ability to make sound decisions.
You would think anything as important as decision making, when it has such far reaching power would be taught in every school, but it is not. To compound the problem, not only is decision-making missing from the curriculum of our educational institutions, up until recently it’s also been absent from most of the corporate training and human resource programs available.
So, how is a person expected to develop this mental ability? Quite simply, you must do it on your own. However, I think it’s important to understand that it’s not difficult to learn how to make wise decisions. Armed with the proper information and by subjecting yourself to certain disciplines, you can become a very effective decision maker.
You can virtually eliminate conflict and confusion in your life by becoming proficient at making decisions. Decision-making brings order to your mind, and of course, this order is then reflected in your objective world … your results.
James Allen may have been thinking of decisions when he wrote, “We think in secret and it comes to pass. Environment is but our looking glass.” No one can see you making decisions but they will almost always see the results of your decisions. The person who fails to develop their ability to make decisions is doomed because indecision sets up internal conflicts which can, without warning, escalate into all out mental and emotional wars. Psychiatrists have a name to describe these internal wars, it is ambivalence. My Oxford Dictionary tells me that ambivalence is the coexistence in one person of opposite feelings toward the same objective.
You do not require a doctorate degree in psychiatry to understand that you are going to have difficulty in your life by permitting your mind to remain in an ambivalent state for any period of time. The person who does permit it to exist will become very despondent and virtually incapable of any type of productive activity. It is obvious that anyone who finds themselves in such a mental state is not living; at best, they are merely existing. A decision or a series of decisions would change everything.
A very basic law of the universe is “create or disintegrate”. Indecision causes disintegration. How often have you heard a person say, “I don’t know what to do.” How often have you heard yourself say, “What should I do?” Think about some of the indecisive feelings you and virtually everyone on this planet experience from time to time.
LOVE THEM – LEAVE THEM
QUIT – STAY
DO IT – DON’T DO IT
GO BANKRUPT – NO DON’T
GO TO WORK – WATCH TV
BUY IT- DON’T BUY IT
SAY IT – DON’T SAY IT
TELL THEM – DON’T TELL THEM
Everyone, on occasion, has experienced these feelings of ambivalence. If it happens to you frequently, decide right now to stop it. The cause of ambivalence is indecision, but we must keep in mind that the truth is not always in the appearance of things. Indecision is a cause of ambivalence, however it is a secondary cause, it is not the primary cause. I have been studying the behaviour of people who have become very proficient at making decisions for over a quarter century. They all have one thing in common. They have a very strong self-image, a high degree of self-esteem. They may be as different as night is to day in numerous other respects, but they certainly possess confidence. Low self-esteem or a lack of confidence is the real culprit here. Decision makers are not afraid of making an error. If and when they make an error in their decision, or fail at something, they have the ability to shrug it off. They learn from the experience but they will never submit to the failure.
Every decision maker was either fortunate enough to have been raised in an environment where decision-making was a part of their upbringing, or they developed the ability themselves at a later date. They are aware of something that everyone, who hopes to live a full life, must understand: Decision-making is something you cannot avoid.
That is the cardinal principle of decision-making. DECIDE RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE WITH WHATEVER YOU’VE GOT. This is precisely why most people never master this important aspect of life. They permit their resources to dictate if and when a decision will or can be made. When John Kennedy asked Werner Von Braun what it would take to build a rocket that would carry a man to the moon and return him safely to earth, his answer was simple and direct. “The will to do it.” President Kennedy never asked if it was possible. He never asked if they could afford it or any one of a thousand other questions, all of which would have … at that time … been valid questions.
President Kennedy made a decision … he said, we will put a man on the moon and return him safely to earth before the end of the decade. The fact that it had never been done before in all the hundreds of thousands of years of human history was not even a consideration. He DECIDED where he was with what he had. The objective was accomplished in his mind the second he made the decision. It was only a matter of time … which is governed by natural law before the goal was manifested in form for the whole world to see.
I was … just hours ago … in an office with three people. We were discussing the purchase of shares in a company. I was selling, they were buying. After a reasonable amount of time, one of the partners asked me when I wanted a decision. I replied, “Right now.” I said, “You already know what you want to do.” There was some discussion about money. I pointed out that money had nothing to do with it. Once you make the decision you will find the money … every time. If that is the only benefit you receive from this particular message on decision-making, burn it into your mind. It will change your life. I explained to two of these people that I never let money enter my mind when I am deciding whether I will or will not do something. Whether I can afford it or not is never a consideration. Whether I want to or not is the only consideration. You can afford anything, there is an infinite supply of money. All of the money in the world is available to you, when the decision is firmly made. If you need money, you will attract it.
I am well aware there are any number of people who will say that is absurd. You can’t just decide to do something if you do not have the necessary resources. And that’s fine if that is the way they choose to think. I see that as a very limiting way of thinking. In truth, it probably is not thinking at all … it is very likely an opinion being expressed that was inherited from another older member of their family who did not think either.
Thinking is very important. Decision makers are great thinkers. Do you ever give much consideration to your thoughts? … how they affect the various aspects of your life? Although this should be one of our most serious considerations, for many people it is not. There is a very small select few who make any attempt to control or govern their thoughts.
Anyone who has made a study of the great thinkers, the great decision makers, the achievers of history, will know they very rarely agreed on anything when it came to the study of human life. However, there was one point on which they were in complete and unanimous agreement and that was, “We become what we think about.” What do you think about? You and I must realize that our thoughts ultimately control every decision we make. You are the sum total of your thoughts. By taking charge this very minute, you can guarantee yourself a good day. Refuse to let unhappy, negative people or circumstances affect you.
The greatest stumbling block you will encounter when making important decisions in your life is circumstance. We let circumstance get us off the hook when we should be giving it everything we’ve got. More dreams are shattered and goals lost because of circumstance than any other single factor.
How often have you caught yourself saying, “I would like to do or have this but I can’t because…” Whatever follows “because” is the circumstance. Circumstances may cause a detour in your life but you should never permit them to stop you from making important decisions.
Napoleon said, “Circumstances, I make them.”
The next time you hear someone say they would like to vacation in Paris, or purchase a particular auto-mobile but they can’t because they have no money, explain they don’t need the money until they make a decision to go to Paris or purchase the car. When the decision is made, they will figure out a way to get the amount needed. They always do.
Many misguided individuals try something once or twice and if they do not hit the bulls-eye, they feel they are a failure. Failing does not make anyone a failure, but quitting most certainly does and quitting is a decision. By following that form of reasoning, you would have to say when you make a decision to quit, you make a decision to fail.
Every day in America, you hear about a baseball player signing a contract, which will pay him a few million dollars a year. You should try to keep in mind … that same player misses the ball more often than he hits it when he steps up to the plate.
Everyone remembers Babe Ruth for the 714 home runs he hit and they rarely mention that he struck out 1,330 times.
Charles F. Kettering said, and I quote, “When you’re inventing, if you flunk 999 times and succeed once, you’re in.”
That is true of just about any activity you can name, but the world will soon forget your failures in light of your achievements. Don’t worry about failing, it will toughen you up and get you ready for your big win. Winning is a decision.
Many years ago Helen Keller was asked if she thought there was anything worse than being blind. She quickly replied that there was something much worse. She said, “The most pathetic person in the world is a person who has their sight but no vision.” I agree with Helen Keller.
At 91, J.C. Penny was asked how his eyesight was. He replied that his sight was failing but his vision had never been better. That is really great, isn’t it?
When a person has no vision of a better way of life, they automatically shut themselves in a prison; they limit themselves to a life without hope. This frequently happens when a person has seriously tried, on a number of occasions, to win, only to meet with failure time after time. Repeated failures can damage a person’s self-image and cause them to lose sight of their potential. They therefore make a decision to give up and resign themselves to their fate.
Take the first step in predicting your own prosperous future. Build a mental picture of exactly how you would like to live. Make a firm decision to hold on to that vision and positive ways to improve everything will begin to flow into your mind.
Many people get a beautiful vision of how they would like to live but because they cannot see how they are going to make it all happen, they let the vision go. If they knew how they were going to get it or do it, they would have a plan not a vision. There is no inspiration in a plan but there sure is in a vision. When you get the vision, freeze frame it with a decision and don’t worry about how you will do it or where the resources will come from. Charge your decision with enthusiasm … that is important. Refuse to worry about how it will happen.
Advanced Decision Making
We make advanced bookings when we fly somewhere – that is quite common. We make advanced reservations to eliminate any confusion or problems when the time arrives for the journey. We do the same with renting a car, for the same reason. Think of the problems you will eliminate by making many of the decisions you must make … well in advance. I’ll give you an excellent example. As I am preparing this message it is Ramadan, a time where all practising Muslims fast. I was in an office yesterday in Kuala Lumpur and was asked if I would like a cup of tea or coffee. I replied that I would appreciate a cup of tea. The lady next to me was then asked if she would like a cup and she replied … “No, I’m fasting.” When she was asked, she did not have to decide whether she wanted anything or not. Whether she was thirsty or not was not a consideration. A decision had previously been made and her advanced Decision was well-tempered with discipline.
The exact same concept works with a person when they are on a diet to release weight. Their decisions are made in advance. If they are offered a big slice of chocolate cake, they don’t have to say, “Gee, that looks good … I wonder if I should.” The decision is made in advance.
I made a decision a long time ago that I would not participate in discussions of why something cannot be done. The only compensation you will ever receive for participating in or giving energy to that type of discussion is something you do not want. I always find it amazing at the number of seemingly intelligent people who persist in dragging you into these negative brainstorming sessions. In one breath these people tell you they seriously want to accomplish a particular objective. And, in the next breath, they begin talking about why they can’t. Think of how much more of life they would enjoy by making a decision that they will no longer participate in that type of negative energy.
The humanistic psychologist, Dr. Abraham Maslow who devoted his life to studying self actualized people, stated very clearly that we should follow our inner guide and not be swayed by the opinion of others or outside circumstances. Maslow’s research showed that the decision makers in life had a number of things in common; most importantly, they did work they felt was worthwhile and important. They found work a pleasure, and there was little distinction between work and play. Dr. Maslow said, to be self-actualized you must not only be doing work you consider to be important, you must do it well and enjoy it.
Dr. Maslow recorded that these superior performers had values, those qualities in their personalities they considered to be worthwhile and important. Their values were not imposed by society, parents or other people in their lives. They did make their own decisions. Like their work, they chose and developed their values themselves. Your life is important and, at its best, life is short. You have the potential to do anything you choose, and to do it well. But, you must make decisions and when the time for a decision arrives, you must make your decision where you are with what you’ve got.
Let me leave you with the words of two great decision makers, William James and Thomas Edison. William James suggested that, compared to what we ought to be, we are making use of only a small part of our physical and mental resources. Stating this concept broadly, the human individual thus lives far within his limits. He possesses powers of various sorts, which he habitually fails to use.
Years later, Thomas Edison said, and I quote, “If we all did the things we are capable of doing, we would literally astound ourselves.”
By making a simple decision, the greatest minds of the past are available to you. You can literally learn how to turn your wildest dreams into reality.
Put this valuable information to use and recognize the greatness, which exists within you. You have limitless resources of potential and ability waiting to be developed. Start today – there’s never any time better than the present. Be all that you are capable of being.
We all have countless reasons why we are not achieving or getting the things we desire in our lives. Some of us are stuck with self-made never-ending reasons to why we “cannot” get the things we want all because we believe again that we “cannot” summon them to be true contrary to believing it is false. However, some people rather not alter their thinking because they don’t enhance their capabilities or are stuck in a place called a “comfort zone”. Fear is let to settle in and start to play all negative scenarios in one’s mind of what could happen if we actually go after want we want in our lives and beat ourselves mentally over and over and over again which leads to frustrations because the reasoning capacity is being used negatively.
All frustration is due to unfulfilled desires, if you dwell on obstacles and let them delay you from getting what you desire; you are certainly not going to get it. Our subconscious mind responds according to the information we pass on to it from our conscious thinking mind and by focusing on negative thoughts you are merely blocking your own good.
Now the question arises… How can I change my thinking from negative to a positive expectancy way of thinking in order to accomplish what I want? Well in order to achieve what you want, you first have to change the way you think about the things you want. This is what is known as “paradigm shift” but what is a paradigm?” A paradigm is a multitude of habits formed through continuous thinking”, think of a paradigm shift as a change from one way of thinking to another. So in order to get the result you want in your life, you have to change your paradigm. As one of my mentors Bob Proctor will explain in the video below shifting your paradigm is not an easy task but it is possible and anyone determined to do it can do it. I will let the video do the explaining, so go ahead and watch it and by the end of it I wish you will have a better understanding of why you are where you are in life with the results you currently have and how you can start to shift your paradigm and begin to get results you truly want and desire in your life.
The information you just learned will change your life in phenomenal ways—if you take action on it.
But before you get started, you have to be clear on a few things.
First, remember that a paradigm is a multitude of habits that are lodged in your subconscious mind.
Second, you must change the paradigm in the same way it was created—through repetition of information.
And, third, you must understand that to change a paradigm you have to consciously and deliberately replace a “bad” habit with a good habit. Otherwise, you’re going to form another bad habit because nature abhors a vacuum.
Start the process by consciously choosing new beliefs that are aligned with the habits you want, and then plant them in the place of the old beliefs in your subconscious mind.
One way to do this is through affirmations. Find positive statements that mirror the beliefs or behaviors you want to incorporate and read the statements over and over again. If you want more money, you can use the affirmation I shared with you in the video…
I am so happy and grateful now that money comes to me in increasing quantities, through multiple sources on a continuous basis.
Another powerful tool you can use is visioneering, which is where you create a new image of yourself being, doing, or having the things you want. Sandy is a master at this! Practicing this a few times a day will go a long way in helping you change bad habits and attract the things you want into your life.
You can also do the following exercise:
- Think about a result you’re getting that you don’t want and ask yourself what behaviors or habits are causing that result.
- Write the behavior out in crystal clear detail.
- Ask yourself what habit or behavior is the polar opposite of the behavior you just identified.
- Write out the new behavior on another sheet of paper.
- Burn the paper that contains the bad habit (as a symbolic gesture).
- Write the positive habit out four or five times a day. Read it frequently. You will eventually lodge that idea in your subconscious mind.
Once it begins to take root, it takes the power away from the bad habit and the bad habit actually dies from lack of nourishment. Then, the deposited one takes over.
Now it will take a fair amount of energy and understanding to do these things, but I promise you it will be very much worth the effort because it will allow you to write your own ticket in life.
When I changed my paradigm back in 1961, my life literally changed like night and day.
So get started. And let me know how you’re doing.
I’ll see you at the top!
To your success,
Chairman & Co-Founder
Proctor Gallagher Institute
The subconscious mind is a part of consciousness that is not always in focal awareness. Your subconscious mind is a composite of everything you see, hear and any information the mind collects that cannot otherwise be consciously process to make sense of, the conscious mind cannot always absorb disconnected information, as this would cause an information overload in your mind. So the subconscious mind stores all the information where it can later retrieve it by the command of your conscious mind.
The subconscious mind stores information your conscious mind might not immediately need at that moment but it stores the information for later retrieval and it will come to your attention when your conscious mind recalls it and brings it to your awareness. The function of your subconscious mind is to store and retrieve data, its job is to make sure you respond exactly the way you are programmed from the beliefs and information you have stored.
The Difference between your conscious and subconscious mind
You only have one mind, but that one mind possesses two distinct functional parts, conscious and subconscious. A wonderful way to think about the two functions of your mind is to think of it as a garden. You are the gardener. You are planting seeds of thoughts in your subconscious mind all day everyday and most of the time you are not aware of this fact because the seeds you are planting in your subconscious are the seeds of your habitual thinking. As you sow in your subconscious mind, so shall you reap in your body and environment.
Do not make the mistake of thinking your conscious and subconscious mind are two different minds. No. They are merely two spheres of activity within one mind. Your conscious mind is the reasoning mind, it is that phase of mind that choose. for example, the clothes you buy, Your home and partner. You make all your decisions with your conscious mind. Your subconscious mind on the other hand, keeps your heart functioning automatically, and all the vital functions of digestion, circulation, and breathing, independent of your conscious mind. Imagine for a minute I told you, you have to operate all your body functions ( breathing, heartbeat, blood circulation, digestion, I mean everything) using your conscious mind, I think you will agree that you will certainly fail and die a quick death because you will find it is impossible to focus on this functions at once without been distracted for even a millisecond. Your subconscious mind is taking care of all this functions and that’s how important it is in our life’s.
How your subconscious mind works
Your subconscious mind is a servant to your thoughts, it does not have the ability to argue or dispute what it is told. It acts on any information you give it, it doesn’t know the difference between right and wrong. So if you give it the wrong information, it will accept it as true and it will then work to find ways to make that information correct. It will bring whatever you impress on it through repetition, even those information that are false, to fruition as conditions, experiences or events in your life. For example if you keep repeating to yourself I am not well, I feel ill, your subconscious mind will find ways to make your thoughts become reality. As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he“.
The subconscious mind accepts what is impressed upon it or what you consciously believe. it does not reason things out as the conscious mind does and it does not argue with you controversially. Your subconscious mind is like a bed of soil that accepts any kind of seed, good, or bad. Your thoughts are the seeds, negative, destructive continue to work negatively in your subconscious mind. Sooner or later, they will emerge and take shape as an outer experience in your life. So remember your subconscious mind does not engage in proving whether your thoughts are good or bad, true or false. It responds readily to the nature of your thoughts or suggestions. For example, if you consciously assume that something is true, even if its false, your subconscious mind will accept it as true and proceed to bring about results that must necessarily follow because you consciously assumed it to be true.
Now that you know this law of thinking why don’t you start feeding your mind seeds of, well-being, abundance, prosperity, peace, love and harmony.
I hoped you enjoyed reading and don’t forget to comment, like and share with your friends and family. I will be continuing this on with a follow-up on how to re-programme your subconscious mind. For now you have a beautiful day and I hope the information has helped you to have a better understanding of your mind.